Writers'
Coach and Dissertation Coach
What
is the shadow?
Deep within your mind, a dim cavern holds your forbidden feelings,
secret wishes, and creative urges. Over time, these "dark"
forces take on a life of their own and form the shadow, which
appears in your rage, addictions, depressions, and power struggles.
When the shadow takes shape in early life, it protects your
vulnerabilities. But when it erupts later, it sabotages your
dreams and desires.
What
is meeting the shadow? You
know that the shadow has appeared when you feel anger, powerlessness,
envy, anxiety, greed, or other forbidden feelings and you say
or do something self-destructive, then feel guilty or shamed
afterward. Or you may react intensely to a trait in others that
you fail to see in yourself (a projection), which makes you
critical and rejecting, and leaves you feeling lonely and isolated.
Or you engage in painful, repetitive fights with loved ones
and can't seem to break the cycle, which leaves you feeling
hopeless and betrayed.
What
is romancing the shadow?
With Connie's help, you will learn these indispensable practices:
how to center yourself to meet the shadow; how to identify the
cues that it has appeared; how to trace its roots in family
history; and how to build a more conscious, ongoing relationship
to it. You can control the shadow so that it doesn't control
you.
What
are the benefits of shadow-work?
Before shadow-work, you automatically obey your shadow character,
which leads to self-sabotaging, uncontrollable behaviors. With
shadow-work, you cultivate a deeper self-knowledge and self-acceptance,
end the cycles of pain in your relationships, and retrieve your
lost creativity — the gold in the dark side. The more conscious
your shadow character grows, the more it loosens its grip, and
the more self-directed your life becomes. Eventually, you can
accomplish directly what the shadow tries to accomplish indirectly.
Through
face-to-face or telephone counseling, Connie invites you to
explore your shadow as a mystery, not as a problem to be solved
or an illness to be cured. When the "other" arrives,
honor that part of yourself as a guest and you will discover
that it comes bearing gifts.
Writer's coach:
As executive editor of Jeremy P. Tarcher Publishing, where I
developed 100 titles, I learned how to guide people on the writer's
journey and how to bring out the best of them in their work.
I can help potential authors to hone in on their topics, organize
their ideas, manage the inner critic as a shadow figure, select
the best title, and complete the project. Publishing coach:
As an editor who has read hundreds of proposals and sold four
books of my own, I can help writers to develop a sellable proposal,
aim it toward the market, shape it for acquisition editors,
and find an appropriate agent. I am a scout for my own agent
and, if your project is right for her, we can send it her way.
Dissertation coach:
Having successfully coached a number of people through their
dissertations to completion, I can teach candidates to select
an exciting but manageable topic, choose an appropriate methodology,
format the ideas, and work through emotional stumbling blocks.
Many people need more guidance than their committees can give
on their way to receiving a Ph.D. I can be your dissertation
coach.
